Lately I have been obsession with reading fiction detective stories. In the midst of Tana French’s In the Woods was a passage that blew me away. Three characters have a discussion about the need for some form of belief system and that for their Irish government and society many people see money as their ideology. […]
I became upset this morning when I read about the increasing number of local murders and international political confrontations. As I read, I felt sadness overtake me. I disengaged from those around me. I wanted to hide. I felt awful. The truth is however, nothing really changed in my world. Had I not read the […]
Last week we explored the definition of mindfulness. But how does one reach a level of constant mindfulness? The first step is experiencing what I call the “State of Gray.” The State of Gray is simple, and yet can be very difficult. Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, calls it being in the […]
Many of the people I work with are like me. They are givers. They sacrifice for others. They support others. They give love. They want to make the world better. But in their attempt to give, they forget to give to the most important person – themselves. Over the years, I have worked personally on […]
“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” – Buckminster Fuller The past months leading up to the election have been contentious. I have written at least one veiled post about the election, but I have not wanted to enter the […]
As I was listening to one module of my friend Uma Girish’s Clear Your Heart for True Healing on-line course, her description of the physiological response to anger sounded very similar to the physiological response to stress, e.g., breathing quickly, stomach muscles tightening, dilated pupils. The reason for the similarity is that both anger and […]
One of the challenges caretakers and other giving-focused individuals have is knowing their own mind and desires. Because most of their daily decisions are made for the good of others, caretakers often lose touch with what they want for their life, their job, or sometimes their next meals. Our knee-jerk reaction is to choose what […]
Laptop computers are usually pretty quiet. A month or so ago, mine started to sound like it was chewing potato chips. Also when I picked it up, I could hear pieces of something falling inside the machine. It was time for a new computer. When my pretty new blue computer arrived, I was excited. Then […]
When I speak to friends back in the States, they always have the same response. “You must be loving it there in paradise.” Their words convey a perception that I am spending my days drinking piña coladas on the beach. My friends assume our move to Mexico means a life of luxury, ease and perfection. […]
I always thought I had to help people and save the world. For the first thirty or so years of my life, I was focused on helping others. I made sure friends and family had what they needed. I supported charities. I put my needs and desires legions behind the needs of others. I was […]