Recently I was triggered by a situation. The situation does not matter. What matters is that I was triggered and fell into the rabbit hole of anger, self-pity, depression, guilt, and the desire for confrontation and revenge. This was not an enjoyable experience. I felt wronged and victimized, and felt an overwhelming desire to “put […]
Like many, I have drastically cut down on my Facebook time. Most of what I see posted is based in fear, negativity, and attacking the “other.” No matter what your political or life views are, it is easy to see people of all types feeding into this fear. In fact, many of us are addicted […]
This election was difficult on a lot of people. And we made it more difficult on ourselves. Instead of a civilized debate, we made the campaign into a sixth-grade playground with name calling and bullying – on both sides. The results of the election were a shock to half the country, resulting in teenage rebellion […]
Along with my own business, I also work part-time for Right Management helping individuals in job transition. We work on the stress of job loss, determining what they want next in their career, and then the nuts and bolts of landing that next perfect job. All of my candidates have a chance to provide feedback […]
After a year in Mexico, we have a much better read on the culture. When you make eye contact with anyone, say “hola” and wait for a warm greeting in reply. If a repairman says he will be there tomorrow, he will probably show up three to five days later. The most important law for […]
Buzzzz. What really? I am tense again?? Breath. Focus. Ah, back in the groove. One of the things I work with my clients on is awareness, especially awareness around stress. The problem with stress is we often don’t notice it until it causes issues. By becoming aware of our stress early on, before it becomes […]
Don’t you just hate it? When you state something as a fact, and then the fact changes? Here is a case in point. Throughout my book From Type A to Type Me: How to Stop “Doing” Life and Start Living It I talk about why not to label things and people, yet I start off […]
The other day I had a good laugh. I was being interviewed on an AM Radio show and the host Annmarie Kelly commented on the preparation I did for my trip to Peru. “I was laughing because you were so diligent. You followed all the instructions. You kept a journal.” Her comments really showed what […]
As I was listening to one module of my friend Uma Girish’s Clear Your Heart for True Healing on-line course, her description of the physiological response to anger sounded very similar to the physiological response to stress, e.g., breathing quickly, stomach muscles tightening, dilated pupils. The reason for the similarity is that both anger and […]
A few weeks ago, I read a great article by Tim Gunn talking about how the fashion industry is doing a disservice to American women. I totally understand how much of runway fashion is about design and art. To create great art, the designers prefer a non-descript blank canvas to work on, e.g., a five-foot […]